I never really thought about when should extended breastfeeding end? When I wrote my post about breastfeeding Mouse beyond 2 years old as the WHO recommends, I never thought I would be breastfeeding Mouse at 3 and a 1/2 years old.The support isn’t there and people’s attitudes towards breastfeeding toddlers and preschoolers and even older are deemed as ‘unnatural’ and ‘dirty’. Yet until recently I never had made a conscious decision on when extended breastfeeding we would stop.Whilst filling in her school application form and seeing her get her school jabs the other week, I guess it has been on my mind. A couple a weekends ago when I had the start of a horrible hacking cough and the weather was unusually hot for October, I found myself unable to sleep.After eventually going to sleep for a short while I was woken up by Mouse at around 4/5 o’clock.When she wakes she always gets into my bed and asks for ‘mummy milk’.I really felt unwell and I just wanted to sleep. It was then I decide it was time to start weaning. It has never bothered me that at 3 and 1/2 years old that she was still breastfeeding and over the last year I’ve got her down to just feeding early mornings.
ME: “Mummy’s really tired and doesn’t feel very well.Have a cuddle and get some more sleep”.
MIA: “No, mummy milk pleeeeaase”.
ME: “Oh, honey please can I bit more sleep.There’s juice on the shelf”.
I find because sleeping on my back because it’s more comfortable with my scoliosis and I was also coughing less.Rolling over to fed her either led on my back as usual or on my side would of induce a huge fit of coughing.Plus I was really, really tired.
MIA:“No, I want mummy milk.Please, mummy milk now!”.
ME:“You can on my iphone for a bit.I’m really sorry but mummy really is poorly”
For anyone who knows me I put up with a lot of pain, illness before I let it get to me.So for me to put myself first for a change is a big thing
. MIA:“Ok, I’ll go on the iphone”.
She finds it and starts watching Baby Jake for a while.She has been playing on the iphone after feeding for a few month’s so it’s another part of the very early morning routine.Slowly but surely we we’re joined by my older two kids and I’m fighting for space and duvet.We get up have breakfast and I spend the day having coughing fit after coughing fit. Monday morning arrives and we go through the same conversation only slightly shorter and the same again Tuesday.Wednesday she’s really insistent but realises she’s not going to get to breastfeed and yes the iphone replaces the early morning feed.And I get more sleep. Thursday she asks for the iphone straight away.But since then she’s gone back to asking straight away but she’s becoming less and less bothered. I struggled for long time breastfeeding all of mine when they were newborns and in the end of breastfeeding was cut short before me and them were ready for various reasons. It has now been up to now been just a question of time for her to wean, but I feel she’s old enough to understand and I still don’t know when extended breastfeeding should end?.